As Annabelle welcomed the new year she reminisced about things that she had already let go of in the preceding year. She documented them in her diary. These experiences would augur well for others on the same journey. She had the intention of collating these experiences into a book someday. What to let go of;
1.Eradicated Negative Emotions That Hindered High Performance
It was fascinating how Annabelle had half expected her old life to keep coming back, at least in flashes time and again, but they didn’t. Her past was in the past. She spent most of her year clearing it and true to Sandy’s guarantee, her past was buried forever. Sandy did clarify that her past memories would still be part of her personal history, a library of events. The difference was that there would be no negative emotional pull attached to it. It presented as just another memory, one she could go back to at any time in the future if ever she needed to re-visit. Most importantly was that she learnt from negative past events by asking herself;
2. Let Go of Beliefs That Limited “Breaking Through The Ceiling”
Annabelle let go of the belief that she would always be the same person she was and life was just the way it was. Now she totally proved to herself that she had changed her life phenomenally on so many fronts – relationship and career for starters! Annabelle also walked away from the fact that she was only entitled to a certain level of prosperity. She never realised that she had created an unconscious ceiling in her mind that was triggered by “lack” rather than “abundance”. They were her father’s pattern which she had worn unknowingly. Her financial target for the upcoming year was to earn loads more. The sky was the limit and visually she could see that leverage points of life when connected, would spur her forth exponentially. She was intuitively researching building blocks that appeared when she searched. For instance, she applied for a dream job and that had come to her through a friend who had met someone at a dinner party. Knowing Annabelle was looking for a similar type of job she immediately called to let her know. This level of serendipity was a sign that she was in the flow of life and would attract what was meant for her. She left her old behaviour of chasing after what she wanted, behind. Instead, she set well-formed goals, installed them in her unconscious mind, then let them go! A polar opposite way of living her life - lighter and more congruent than the stress, worry and chase.
3. Tweaked Buying Strategy
She was an impulsive shopper. Buying when there was hardly money in the bank and no need for it too. This exacerbated her spousal relationship that was heading south. As Sandy helped her elicit her buying strategy she realised she needed a check in before buying; Did she really need this? On a scale of 1 – 10 how much did she need it? Did she already have something to replace this need? All pertinent questions she never asked herself before. Seemed obvious now but then when she was deeply immersed in her pattern, she could not see it. And that was the point. People didn’t see their patterns easily. She needed to be outside herself to see it. Having the aid of a coach like Sandy was crucial to accelerate this journey.
4. Stepped Out Of Herself
This was a concept new to her. She had always looked at things from her perspective. She didn’t know that there was a process to step out of herself and see another’s perspective. Sandy taught her how to step out and that was when she had Eureka moments. She could see clearly now from an objective position, her neutral self. This shocked her as she observed her posture in life and how she related to others in the world. She was even more alarmed when she stepped into the shoes of her spouse and realised what she was doing. Her communication with him was rough, she barely gave him any attention. She was self- absorbed and made the big mistake of not letting him know how she felt. Coming back into her perspective she knew all of the things that she needed to amend. She was going to see how he would respond once she changed.
5. Changed State From Control to Trust
A big part of her life was control. She felt more comfortable when she orchestrated people and events to come together even if it was a simple dinner party. Sandy had taught her how to let go and ask herself the “what if” question; What if it didn’t happen the way she planned? What would the worst case scenario be? Interestingly, she felt her level of stress reduce when she did not have to worry about supporting the event energetically. She could use her energy to enjoy the night. Her friends too shared that they were less wound up around her. They could finally relax in her midst. She left behind the need for perfection and making things happen for others. Everyone had a part to play in the broad scheme of things. Let the entire orchestra play their instrument and create the music meant for that night. She quite liked the idea of “allowing” and let’s see what pans out. The semblance of mystery and illusion were also exhilarating! Looking back on the year before Annabelle felt she had crawled out from behind the stage screen. She hid there all her life and letting go of her fears, she pulled the curtain open. She was standing on stage now ready to play her song. Smiling, she walked ahead beaming with confidence as the New Year welcomed her.
Sylvia is a qualified Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) Master Trainer. She started her business in Sydney and is now based in Singapore.