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A large part of our work at VIA Frontiers is committed to education. We are passionate about helping individuals attain self-management tools, to improve efficiencies and ultimately lead a happy life. The blogs I have written below are testimony to this.
Every blog will add value to the reader and give insights for free. How does an individual shift their focus for a different posture in life that will bring them grace, satisfaction and a life they love. Happy reading! It was fascinating how Annabelle had half expected her old life to keep coming back, at least in flashes time and again, but they didn’t. Her past was in the past. She spent most of her year clearing it and true to Sandy’s guarantee, her past was buried forever.
Sandy did clarify that her past memories would still be part of her personal history, a library of events. The difference here is that there would be no negative emotional pull attached to it. It presented as just another memory, one she could go back to at any time in the future if ever she needed it. Annabelle had been through so much in the past year. Having been in a dysfunctional relationship she had blamed everyone for anything that went wrong in her life.
Hiring Sandy, a Rapid Success Coach was the best thing she did. She could see clearer now and understood the part she played in creating bad outcomes. Here she was at the beginning of a new year, ready to play. “We have had a rough two years” I overheard a lady say. We were at a bus stop. She was chatting with her friend. “It has been the worst two years of my life. I don’t feel human anymore” she exclaimed. “I felt cut off from people and didn’t realise how much that meant to me” she continued.
She wasn’t the only one feeling that. I felt the same. So much of my love to connect and communicate was limited to Zoom calls. I needed to touch and hold another’s hand, to hear the sound of laughter and just feel the preciousness of relationship. Trevor was fascinated with how employees in the organization he worked for described a winner. Sharon Osborne once said on the Oprah Winfrey show that she preferred to be a beautiful face alighting from an old car rather than a wrinkled woman in a posh one. He smiled as he recalled watching that segment and unfortunately, felt that most people he spoke to felt the same.
Since Trevor was about to embark on a Culture Change initiative in his organization, he felt as HR Director that he would like to see his colleagues widen their scope of what made a winner. His wish was that everyone expanded their life to include other aspects beyond work and have a deeper dive into their identity. Annabelle was learning fast. Sandy her NLP coach had helped her transform out of a bad relationship and she was ready to learn self management skills so she could be independent.
The more reliance on self, the faster she would achieve what she wanted. The more she depended on others, the less control she would have on her outcomes. John had worked for one organization all his life. Relationships with colleagues went back a long way. He moved up the corporate ladder progressively but it was tough going.
He had come from a family where his father was not exactly endearing to his mother. Siblings didn’t get along well either. Conflict resolution was difficult as most of the time insults, blame and reasons why something didn’t happen the way it should have, were flung at each other. For John this was norm. He didn’t think anything of it. Trevor had a big task ahead of him. The Board had approved his Human Resource proposal to implement a Culture Change project in the coming year. Even the mere thought of what it would entail gave Trevor the notion that it would be a full-on year.
It was December and at year end he knew as HR Director of the company that his people had worked hard. He could not stress more the power of re-charging energy at year end. To throw caution to the wind and change gears in their life. Sara started to feel uplifted. It was coming to the end of a year when the world stopped for a pandemic. Living life in normalcy had been a luxury. Those who had life turned upside down were in strife at the new landscape they were facing. Many worked from home.
Sara knew that a New Year was an important time. It gave a fresh start to everything from goals set to achieving them at year end. Her winning mindset would have her do anything and everything to make things happen. She was an adventurer at heart who took on challenges in life as they appeared. Petra walked down the street and came to a crossroad. She had to choose – left or right? She had already been through hell in her life. The wrong road would only make her suffer more.
Her heart said right and her thinking mind said left. She decided to go right. After all she had been training her soul intelligence to find its way towards self management and she was beginning to see some success through the otherwise closed blinds of her life. Reminiscing to only a few months before when she craved an answer that would yield rapid results. She saw an ad on Facebook that called out to her. The language called out to her. It said Practitioner, a word that had been playing on her mind. Trevor was the Head of Human Resources in the organisation that John worked for. They were good friends. Both were members of the Senior Leadership Team, John being Chief Operations Officer. He was always on the lookout for great talent. He needed people who had great relationship skills and were easy to work with.
Trevor helped him recruit. He hired people with potential who could be coached and mentored into more senior positions. So when John returned from the NLP Practitioner Program, the two colleagues decided to catch up for a drink. Friday night was a good bet. They usually went on through the wee hours of the morning.. Annabelle’s story was classic. She was in bad relationships all her life. From parental to siblings and extended family. Then, she didn’t notice the pattern. Her finger always pointed outwards to others. They were to blame.
Being locked at home with her partner during the Pandemic, her relationship was under the microscope. Issues highlighted were ones that had been staring her in the face for a long time. She was going crazy not knowing how to get her life sorted. Having seen a Facebook post from a coach she responded. Sandy turned out to be a saving grace. She was trained in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) a model created by two geniuses who coded and structured how change occurred rapidly via the unconscious mind. Hailed as a magical intervention that worked well with the inner-self to attain better outcomes in life, the NLP toolbox contained more than 100 processes. The concept of purpose plagued Petra’s life in a big way. She had heard people talk about this even though she never really understood what it truly meant and why it was so important.
The phone rang. It was her friend Gerry inviting her to a hike through the national park. It was going to take all day so bring a packed lunch and wear good hiking shoes, she said. Petra loved Sundays like that. Her spirit could roam. She felt free to dream and smell the roses as she walked. Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. The old landmark book that caused waves through society many decades ago, rang through Petra’s mind. She had done the NLP Practitioner course and found her purpose, a calling she knew was there for many years but she did not have a clue as to how she would find it.
“Clicking in” to her unique selling proposition (USP), she was not just relieved at having found it but also excited at what lay ahead. What surfaced during the course was her special talent with women. This was not new information. It resonated with her Richard’s spousal relationship made a significant turnaround fast. He was shocked at the rapid changes both he and his wife experienced. Overnight they were both on a different level. It was a miracle!
But then again was it? In the back of his mind his NLP coach Sandy’s voice rang loud and clear. She had said that as he hit session 3 or so, he would begin to see phenomenal changes. His internal radar was re-orientating. He didn’t quite understand what that meant specifically as he had never experienced immediate change before. As Sandy moved along with her coaching business she realised the importance of collating data. From age, gender, marital status to career and many other dimensions that she felt would give her deeper insights into trends.
Specialising in helping people in relationships break through mental blocks, she began to notice valuable gender-related data that was beginning to show trends. She felt these patterns of behaviour would help her accelerate coaching results. In one of my earlier blogs “What is NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming)?” I defined NLP as an epistemology – a model of how we know what we know. Many people ask “is it beneficial to learn NLP?” As human beings we think and feel then apply language to our actions. These produce results in our lives whether in our career or family contexts. So just imagine if you knew how to change your thoughts and feelings? And if you had language models to influence others? Wouldn’t these produce amazing results in your life? The meaning of NLP is simple. It is an epistemology – a model of how we know what we know. How do you know that you like something or dislike something? How do you know that something like a bill you have paid is in the past or an unpaid bill is something in the future?
Neuro linguistic programming is a jigsaw puzzle of your mind. It teaches you where information is stored and how to retrieve it easily. It also contains the methodology of eradicating negativity fast and permanently... Sara started to feel uplifted. It was coming to the end of a year when the world stopped for a pandemic. Living life in normalcy had been a luxury. Those who had life turned upside down were in strife at the new landscape they were facing. Many worked from home.
Sara knew though that her winning mindset would have her do anything and everything to make things happen. She was an adventurer at heart who took on challenges in life as they appeared. Petra’s life changed phenomenally even though she was living through the Covid pandemic. She had cleaned out the engine of her mind and clicked into her purpose! She was excited as she now had self management tools to use for the rest of her life.
So much of her life she heard people talk about this concept of purpose. She never understood why it was so important. Now she understood. The most exciting thing is that she experienced rapid wins while doing the NLP Practitioner course. Petra walked down the street and came to a crossroad. She had to choose – left or right? She had already been through hell in her life. The wrong road would only make her suffer more.
Her heart said right and her thinking mind said left. She decided to go right. After all she had been training her soul intelligence to find its way towards self management and she was beginning to see some success through the otherwise closed blinds of her life. I lived in the banking world for 13 years and loved every minute of it. When I found my
self-growth at a plateau I knew it was a sign to leave the industry. Transitioning through headhunting and IT consulting recruitment I started my own business in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), focusing on corporate applications. While we are in great need of talent to drive leadership and fill pipelines for
succession planning, we most often look outside the organization. As an NLP trainer who has worked with corporate since 2002, I feel the huge ongoing global war for talent can be addressed by growing internal employees organically. My passion is in creating effective people to this end. Baby boomers are leaving the workforce taking wisdom and experience with them. Generation X are next in line, ready to take charge. High Performance Culture & its importanceWe were having friends over for dinner again. The lovely aroma of food and
sound of the wok clanging was like a cacophony of sounds I was used to. Mum was the ultimate entertainer. She loved to cook and did it effortlessly. It was very usual for our family to have friends and family over for meals. As a child I looked forward to hearing that my favourite cousins were invited for a sleepover. It was our little reward that Dad afforded us. The deal was that we had to complete our homework for the week, before they arrived on the weekend. That was Dad’s strict rule. |
SYLVIA FERNANDES
Sylvia is a qualified Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) Master Trainer. She started her business in Sydney and is now based in Singapore. Archives
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