If you have lived with bad decision making all your life and would like a turnaround to create better outcomes, your fastest route to success is to learn Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) techniques.
 
The crux is to figure out the root cause. Is your decision making hurried and coming from impatience? Or does it stem from internal conflict where many parts within you want different things?
 
Types of Decision Making
 
1. Impatience
A person who makes decisions impatiently, has some level of urgency in them. This is learnt behaviour.

• Perhaps a parent had the same decision-making strategy and they have emulated this
• Perhaps this person grew up in a household where things were done fast and the impatience has become a habit

A little reflection to understand when they first started doing this would help them stop making bad choices.
 
2. Internal Conflict
A person who suffers this has many parts that pull them in different directions. Created from stressful situations where the person unconsciously needs different parts to look after various aspects of their life.

• A decisive part that makes decisions fast
• A distractor part that says let’s have a look at something else

Integration of these parts needs expert help. Attending an NLP course or some one-on-one NLP coaching would help pull the parts together.
 
These are some examples of how high performance in organisations is unleashed. When parts are integrated for instance, the employee begins to feel whole again. They have focus to move in one direction that brings them results.
 
Typically because NLP processes create impactful accelerated results, they require only a few sessions and the person is able to self-manage beyond that.  
 
This is how NLP works with the unconscious mind to help people stop making bad decisions. The unique part about working through NLP processes, is that once the old pattern is interrupted, it can’t work again.
 
When I was younger my mother always called me an impulsive buyer. I would see a dress and buy it hastily without looking at dresses in other shops. Today I know it was my intuition that drove me.
 
I was a very defined personality from young hence I knew what I wanted very quickly. And my decisions were good. I was happy with the result. This is how employees in companies produce high performance.
 
Can you imagine the time and money saved if you were a good decision-maker?

​Influential people achieve outcomes more easily than others. One aspect of their success is the language they weave deliberately through the minds of their audience.
 
It is an easy-to-learn part of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and you will be surprised to know that our daily language comprises many influential language patterns that breed success when used in a specific way.
 
The Source of Influential Language Patterns
 
Our choice of words have a far greater impact on outcomes than we realise.  Co-founders of NLP, Dr. Richard Bandler and Dr. John Grinder, modelled Dr. Milton Erickson, one of the world’s greatest hypnotherapists of the 20th century. 
 
Bandler and Grinder observed that Milton had great success with his clients in his coaching practice, when he used specific language patterns with them.  This style of language allowed listeners’ unconscious minds to access their deep, inner resources. 
 
When language used during therapy is purposely vague, the listener created his or her own interpretation and meaning. 
 
The Benefits of Knowing Language Patterns
 
Knowing these patterns enables you to become more effective at putting ideas across and changing people’s minds, in a way that respects their values.
 
A parent having difficulty influencing a child to sleep would use a double-bind pattern where the child is given two choices you might want to go to bed at 7 or 8. Either way they will go to bed.
 
Leaders on the other hand use language patterns that are highly ambiguous for example, we will all enjoy the transformation that is ahead of us.
 
Leaving a message ambiguous gives the listener an opportunity to derive their own meanings. This builds rapport with an audience, as everyone is entitled to their own interpretation of how they will enjoy the transformation. This is inclusive rather than exclusive language.
 
Knowing these language patterns and using them to our advantage in daily life is mesmerising. Results spike from heightened motivation and deeper rapport.
 
It is indeed the difference that makes the difference!
  
Learning to use language patterns intentionally is about influencing others and communicating effectively, to open up choices and possibilities.  It’s about achieving mutual outcomes for all parties involved.  
  
Imagine how easily you could influence others if you knew exactly how to use appropriate language patterns?   And how liberating it would be to understand your experience better by becoming more alert to your senses?
 
I am sure you see it by now. There is wide scope to benefit from using NLP techniques.    
 
 
 

The benefits of using Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) techniques are far reaching,  bearing in mind there are more than a hundred processes that cater to a wide range of issues. 
 
In this post, I’d like to touch on how we are continuously changing maps in our minds unknowingly that impact our performance. Imagine if you were to know the maps that you had in your memory and how to use them deliberately for better results.
 
Wouldn’t that be awesome? Another tool under your belt!
 
What Are Maps?
If you follow the sequence of points here you will stand a better chance of understanding how we create maps:
 

• We have five basic senses: visual, auditory, kinaesthetic, olfactory and gustatory. Otherwise known as the senses of seeing, hearing, feeling, smelling and tasting. We process our inner and outer worlds through these senses.  
• Within each of these senses lay finer distinctions - what you hear can be loud or soft, what you see can be clear or blurry, what you taste can be delicious or awful
• NLP clarifies that we use these distinctions to create meaning and code our experience. For example, a perfume we like smells pleasant and a perfume we dislike smells offensive.   

 
One of the main  benefits in understanding our maps is that we become more aware of our senses. 
 
Changing Maps 
Having now become aware of how you store your experience via the senses, the next step is to decide what you would like to change.
 
A simple example - let’s say you don’t like vegetables and you know they are good for you.
 
Changing the way you have stored vegetables could be a simple process of replacing a black & white picture to colour. If this is one of your drivers for change, it will instantly make vegetables appealing.
 
Imagine if you could expand your boundaries to give vegetables another chance.   Wouldn’t this be great for your health?  
 
Or extend it beyond to changing maps about specific types of work you loathe but have to do? Wouldn’t this augur well for your results at work?
 
This is how high performers are created!
 
There is wide scope to benefit from using NLP techniques.  We have only highlighted one of the fastest, most effective techniques in the field. Try it out to experience the amazing outcomes you can enjoy too.
 
 

Today’s generations are experiencing higher levels of stress than ever seen before. Precipitated by information on the internet, Wars and a Pandemic, it has forced unprecedented changes in the way we think and work.  
 
Add to that the stresses of a daily corporate job and family committments. It goes without saying that employees need to be equipped with specific tools to cope with these pressures.
 
When understood, stress has an upside. It has the ability to motivate us to act, for example,  in a fight or flight situation. Do I stay and push back on my boss or do I walk away?
 
Having Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) tools will help you identify the root cause of this stress and how to use it positively as a marker that something is amiss. For instance, an incidence of physical symptoms like headaches, fatigue and insomnia are warning signs that deeper health issues are on the horizon.
 
Start by using NLP tools to reduce stress with these three simple yet effective techniques.
 
Reframing
Changing the way you view stress is important. If seen as an indicator then it becomes useful.  This is known as reframing in NLP.
 
Learn to take a step back and examine the real cause;

• a specific situation or person that triggers it
• does it happen at a certain time of day
• is it connected to something outside the work place

 
By doing this, your heightened awareness will give you a more  calibrated response to the situation, contrary to a blind reaction which is most often seen.
 
Anchoring
The primary function of our unconscious mind is to keep us safe. Many negative associations are created at a young age. For example, linking a person, object or situation to pain, triggers stress.  A parent you didn’t get along with or the thought of school which you never did well at. These are often transposed to work.
 
Learning how to break this link to pain is the first step that leads to a tremendous reduction in stress. It isn’t automatic anymore. In fact again, it is calibrated.
 
An NLP technique called anchoring would form links of satisfaction, joy or gratitude to different aspects of work.
 
Beliefs
Most people are driven by beliefs that they are unaware of. Beliefs that again, are formed when young. Negative beliefs that limit a person’s capabilities and cause stress could sound like this:
 

• I can’t handle stress
• All companies take advantage of their employees
• I must please my colleagues all the time otherwise they won’t like me

 
You may be labouring with such beliefs that hamper your performance and affect your well being.
 
It isn’t enough to reflect on beliefs you hold about your job.   Learning how to delete unhelpful beliefs to install positive, effective ones instead is another technique that employees need to learn to reduce stress.
 
Doing so is making a choice of never having to struggle against limiting beliefs, ever again.
 
In conclusion, stress is impossible to eliminate altogether.  We need good stress in our lives to keep us on our toes. Equipping yourself with a useful mindset to deal with stress is a more empowering way and one that would keep you in good health too.
 
You do not need to have a special gift or talent  to learn NLP tools. It is a learned skill just like many other work skills already in your toolbox.
 

​As a Neuro-linguistic Programming Master Trainer who has been unleashing the leader in many of my clients, I have to say it’s easy to get in touch with this part of yourself.
 
The mind that drives self-leadership requires firstly, an understanding of your identity; who you are. The intimate settings that make up how you store information daily, preferences in communication and most importantly, your decisions and responses. This is the mind you need to know! 
 
In his landmark book Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman detailed many aspects of the emotional self. Does it mean we have to get “emotional” to release negative emotions within us? NO!
 
It means getting in touch with your emotions. As you feel, you go deeper into knowing where that feeling is stored in your body. This knowing is of great advantage, for your body will signal back when it needs to;
 

• Warn you of something
• Help you make a decision
• Repeatedly inform you of a message

 
Imagine if you were so minutely aware of little nuances and feelings in your body? This is the fundamental building block of tapping into intuition and the very basis of self-leadership. The leader who “knows” when making a decision that it is a right one because it resonates, is one who is connected to his/her emotional self.
 
At school we learnt academics to a large extent – theory that emanated from logic and reasoning. Data-driven styles that encouraged us to be in our head rather than our body. This has disconnected human beings and the very reason so many suffer mental health issues.
 
As an ex-banker and corporate lady who worked in a myriad of fields including consulting, I reinvented myself to learn about the superior mind that  most people are unaware of.
 
Process-driven with easy access via the five senses, today I “know” this turns people around from negative to positive and creates passion in those wanting more. This is how self-leadership begins.
 
I now have the tools to accelerate people to their deepest, unconscious self that connects the mind and body. 

I met Thomas Leonard, referred to as the grandfather of coaching a year before he died. A blessing to the world and the most profound man I had ever met. I was on my journey to becoming a coach then. ​

Fast forward 20 years and  here I am certifying people to be coaches, powerful beyond recognition, to help others heal at the deepest levels. How does one flip so fast from corporate lady to a behaviour change coach?

There is only one answer – by working via the unconscious mind through the 5 senses. Easy enough to do as we all make pictures, sounds and feelings. This may sound simplistic and it is but there is a system to it.

Underpinned by more than 100 processes that clear out cobwebs from the past and reinstall positives that create better outcomes. To be a powerful coach, one must first work through these processes for your outcomes.

Feeling the buzz of success and seeing the leap to high performance, that is true testimony that NLP processes work. That is the signal that you are ready to coach others, be it on a personal level or in application to the workplace.

How is it results are achieved fast? Weeding out content of an experience, NLP coaches work with the context, process and structure only. Hence the myth that you have to share your personal stories is gobbledegook!

As soon as the problem statement is diagnosed, NLP coaches set on their way to take clients through a myriad of processes. One after another for an hour or so. Clients report this wonderful experience is like taking your brain to the gym.

Magical results ensue as momentum re-aligns the internal self. More clients want a piece of it and the rest is history. What are the traits that coaches need? Fundamentally, intuition to know where the problem is for this fast tracks the coaching session for the client.

Less talk more process-driven change and that to me is how corporates need to build their infrastructure of coaches. Eliminate the need for managers as team members gather self-change tools.
Re-defining culture of the organisation with a workforce that is open to change, resilient and equipped with tools to conquer the landscape ahead. Isn’t that the vision that every organisation aspires to?

This is indeed available at your doorstep. It is a mere decision away…..