Build Self-Confidence at Work

How to Build Self Confidence at Work

If there is one thing I have observed over the two decades of working with people to improve their effectiveness at work, it is that every single one of them (however senior) aspired to build self-confidence at work.

Some have successfully found their desired job and are very proud of it, as that in itself is a major feat. But now comes the time to do the job and they are on the lookout for self-confidence tips.

The tummy rumbles and butterflies increase as they have to make a presentation to the team…….and this is where the trouble starts. Signing up for an NLP for self-confidence training (Neuro Linguistic Programming) is a recommended start. Why? Because NLP works with the unconscious mind and this is where fast and permanent change occurs. 

These are some takeaways that you will gain from doing an NLP training, that will help you build self-confidence at work:

1. Competence then confidence

Be sure of your content. Often people who are not prepared wonder why they are not able to build self-confidence at work. This is a major reason most of the time.

So what does this tell you? Spend time to master content at your level of authority. As you move through life and get promoted, you will build self-confidence at work naturally.

Or alternatively, an NLP for work training would teach you how to structure your presentations and learn the process that underlies every delivery, whether it is a mere conversation or a formal presentation to a large audience.

2. Silence your internal dialogue

As your meeting is about to begin or your name is announced on stage, you start to feel that old familiar flutter. Your internal voice is probably saying a myriad of things;

• what should I say first
• what if I say something silly
• what if they laugh at me

Remember, the reason you have been nominated to speak is because you have the right credentials. So step into that space that could elicit thoughts like:

• I am the one who knows most about this subject that is why I am here to present
• If I don’t know how to answer a question I can always get back to the person later
• So what if I make a mistake? I can be humble, apologise and learn from it.

3. Create a confident state of mind

These are the kind of self-confidence tips you will learn at an NLP training. How to step into that state of confidence anytime you need it. This concept of state management sits at the core of NLP.

Imagine if you could teach your neurology how to access confidence and make it available in whatever context you are in. That would yield you far better results than what you are producing now.

So thinking about a time when you felt confident whether you were with family, friends or colleagues is of no consequence. It is still a state of confidence.

If it is a 5/10 intensity, amplify it to a 10/10. This will give you the blown-out feeling of confidence where you feel it strongly, in a specific part of your body.

Practice this repeatedly so you are doing an NLP training with your body! Tuning it to receiving signals for when you want to trigger self-confidence in you.

4. Rapport with self

This is a big question. Are you in rapport with yourself? Or do you live in conflict? If you have many parts inside you that operate in different ways but want the best for you, how would that manifest? Presumably in highly erratic, inconsistent behaviours.

So let’s say I have these parts operating inside me, all of which are displaying different behaviours:

• a nervous part - feel jittery, find it hard for words to come out of your mouth
• a self-assured part - feel in control, know what to say as you are quite well versed with your subject
• a mischievous part - feel edgy, look for opportunities to distract people in your audience

These parts need to be integrated as one whole being before you build self-confidence at work. This is a skill that you will learn to do if you attended an NLP for self-confidence course. It is work through your unconscious mind rather than telling yourself (your conscious mind) what to do.

This is why many corporate people attend NLP for work courses and read books on the subject. There are direct work applications like leadership, coaching, communication, team work, presentation and more, that people do improve after attending an NLP training.

To summarize, applying NLP tools to build self-confidence at work will also impact your social life and beyond. Create your workplace and life the way you want it. It is after all…..all in your mind!

Sylvia Fernandes is the Founder & CEO of VIA Frontiers. She is a Master Trainer of NLP who is specialised in corporate applications. She started her business in Sydney in 2002 and has been operating in the Asia Pacific Region ever since. She is currently based in Singapore. She is also the author of Bye Bye Black Cat -- Turn Your Luck Around and Realise Opportunities. Visit VIA Frontiers for more information.