Manage Your Emotions

One of the greatest life skills I learnt from my father was to choose my response especially in volatile situations. The old way was to keep silent and let things boil over.
 
Today, having done NLP programs and subsequently become an NLP Trainer, I realise so much of what I had to control in the past could have been done in a more efficient way.
 
At the core of NLP sits one of the most powerful tools - how to be adept at managing your emotional state.  Whatever the other person is spewing, you remain calm and confident.
 
For example, when faced with an angry spouse and you fly off the handle, the situation doesn’t augur well for either party. The alternative is to fire off an anchor of calm so you are able to access empathy and rationale at the same time.
 
Creating anchors are easy to do. Learning through “remembering a time when” you were calm, your neurology is able to access the feeling. Capturing that feeling is fundamental to the process of replication for use in the future.
 
Many people are not aware of these feelings as they go through the day. As human beings we access hundreds of emotional states daily. Imagine if you could anchor fundamental states to be used again in the future when situations arise!
 
You become the Master of that interaction as you dictate the communication. Awareness of states is everything! It is the basis of success!