The opportunity to re-set stares us square as we enter a new year every year. Some make use of this refreshing energy that affords a boost and a clean start. Others see it as just another year to do the same thing over again.
How do you feel? Will it be the same or different from the last? Are you a fatalist who does not believe in creating what you want or a manifester who knows that paths can be changed?
In my years of helping clients manifest their future it has been heartening to see how lives changed from mediocre to amazing. Being in the field of personal growth, charged with tools to make dreams come true I definitely fall in the second bucket.
I read books on the brain’s neuroplasticity, its ability to change focus thus change reality. Gifted with attracting people who had experienced this, I heard stories of how they did it. Moving out of calamity to create a stable normal life based on their choices.
Inspired by the, and never imagining I would be an influencer of sorts someday, I followed my heart. From many years ago when I began my career as a banker, I very naturally followed my soul’s purpose. A deep unconscious feeling that led me to be a living example of how outcomes can be achieved.
Looking back I would say a big aspect of making change was having an attitude of openness and curiosity. Like others, I realised my formative years as an adolescent drove my decisions. Absolutely nonsensical when I think about it. Today was so different to my growing up years. How could I still operate from the same canvas?
That question led me to dig deep inside, to understand my identity. The question “Who Am I” came to mind repeatedly. I then set out on a journey of self-development to find out. As pieces of the puzzle came together I realised toxic beliefs I was holding.
With an open heart I disbanded with them. At this stage this was easy enough to do as Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) tools were process-driven and highly applicable to daily life.
Having reached this level of insight, I realised the most difficult part was accessing my unconscious mind to discover behaviour patterns that were hurdles in my way. Like layers of an onion deeper patterns only surfaced once outer layers were peeled off. The next step of eradicating these patterns was so easy.
Like going through revolutions of change internally, I very quickly realised I had impacted my behaviour positively without knowing. Old triggers were gone. The same people who were deemed as problematic were still there but I was unaffected. Incredible that!
Life started to become exciting as the old and the past were attended to. The fun part was beginning. The part of creating what I wanted my future to look like. I recall an NLP process I did that had a hugely profound impact on me – setting goals on my future timeline.
It was one thing to set a goal but another to learn how to install it in my unconscious mind. Through a series of visualisations I placed my goal in the future. I wanted to be an international trainer. I had not trained for a single day of my life. I was a banker moving to a stage with an audience who would pay to hear me speak.
A few months later I was called to a meeting of trainers by my friend Phil. He hadn’t seen me in a while. That night an announcement was made that an Australian trainer was needed for a training in Singapore. I never looked back.
Being in the right time at the right place took a few things;
· To install my goal on my future timeline so my unconscious knew exactly what I wanted. You get what you focus on so it was important to create my goal with tremendous clarity
· To listen to my intuition – anything that resonated with me helped me make my decision to attend that meeting even though I was resistant to do so, logically
If you are a fatalist, I hope you are at least beginning to see that there is structure and there are specific tools that help you design a life that you love. I will be touching on these in future blogs.
For now, I wish you a Happy New Year!
Sylvia is a qualified Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) Master Trainer. She started her business in Sydney and is now based in Singapore.