Sylvia was Sandy’s NLP trainer. An ex-banker who had reinvented herself, she soul searched for more than five years to find meaning in life.
As she meandered through her journey, her decisions led to having different people around her. Her language was more influential, a far cry from the tactless, straight forward style she had walked away from. Her posture and outlook to life had transformed.
Beginning to realise she was also attracting different types of people like Sandy, John and Sara who were also on that same path. Intuitively they knew she would be able to help as everything she said was like music to their ears. They needed guidance from someone like her who had been there, done that!
And so they signed up for her NLP Practitioner program which was an international certification. Sandy and Sara wanted to start their own business and needed coaching skills. John was a corporate man who managed a team and his desire was to transfer coaching skills to them.
Sylvia began with an opener “it was Norman Vincent Peale who said change your thoughts and you change your world.” There was no shortage of advice on the benefits of this on the internet, in books, seminars, courses and workshops.
Sylvia went on to add that she was going to share the HOW TO make that change. Change had to come from within. Anything otherwise was considered coercion. Thoughts were the result of a constant ebb and flow between the conscious and unconscious minds. They gave rise to emotions which dictated how we felt. They were powerful beyond measure.
Even long after an upsetting event or situation, there were times when these thoughts still took precedence. It was so important to be aware of thoughts that drove us so that they could be changed, if needed.
This was the first step to change yet Sylvia found in her experience, many people allowed their thoughts to control them. This is where she played. Bringing thoughts to awareness, for people who wanted change in their performance. Re-directing the brain to achieve something different to what they were doing.
The best part about all this was that it was easy to make that change. As long as a person identified where their thoughts emanated from. Was it their ego or voices from the past? Voices of parents, authority figures, siblings or friends? Were they stored neatly away in compartments or scattered any which way?
In the course of one of her programs, Sylvia related how she met a lady who was in her forties. She had everything going for her but somehow sabotaged herself at the end. She never achieved her goals.
Through the course Sylvia uncovered her emotional strategy to reveal that she did all the right things but sabotaged herself only at the end. A voice in her head was the blockage.
When asked whose voice it was, she revealed in horror “oh my God it’s my mother’s voice”. Her mother had put her down from childhood and told her she would amount to nothing. As soon as she realized that same voice was playing in her mind she wondered why she had not realised this earlier.
This was often the case in Sylvia’s experience. Like a carpenter who knew where to cut wood and how to piece it together, Sylvia was a master of the mind. She knew where the internal knots were and how to untie them.
Sylvia merely worked with the strategy of what was not working and blew it out to release the person to freedom. Understanding behavior patterns were crucial. The source of thought patterns needed to be eradicated.
Sylvia had observed that most people were on autopilot which did not augur well for introspection. On the other side of the coin those who were unleashing their full potential via changing mindsets, were doing so successfully just from a simple thing like identifying their driver thought patterns.
Best of all these change processes were easy to transfer across to others, so they could replicate talent. Ultimately it was important to take that first step and just do it!
Sylvia is a qualified Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) Master Trainer. She started her business in Sydney and is now based in Singapore.